Loyalty and Building High Self-esteem.

Prioritizing Your Growth for a Good Life.

It’s the beginning of another amazing week and it’s always a great privilege to welcome you to the week by writing to you about things that can help you build an amazing life.

Every day is an opportunity to get things together in your mind and take a decisive step towards what you want, if you haven’t been going after what you want this year, today is a good day to start doing that by taking the most minute step towards your goals.

Learn to do what you can and start from where you are, you need this to move forward in life.

It’s been an incredible six weeks of talking about the most important factors to building high self-esteem and I want you to go over the series as much as you need to, to build high self-esteem. You can start here

Today, we’re going to see another factor that is a two-edged sword, it can help you build high self-esteem when properly deployed and it can also hurt your self-confidence when it’s not accurately used – don’t forget that all actions that build your self-esteem must reinforce your feeling of competence and worthiness and the absence of these two core pillars of self-esteem means you’re on the wrong track.

One of the major factors in life that can improve your competence and worthiness is LOYALTY, and just like every other virtue that builds you, loyalty starts from the inside before it reflects on the outside.

On the inside, if you’re not loyal to yourself, you cannot be truly loyal to other people and it is the loyalty to yourself that can help you build high self-esteem.

What is Loyalty?

What is your cause in life?

What is your purpose?

What are your goals for this year?

What are your aims for this week, even this day?

When you have the answers to all these questions, put them on a plain list where you can see them and then ask yourself how devoted you are to your answers.

Your dedication and devotion, your faithfulness to the process of achieving all the things you have on the plain list is how you define how loyal you are to yourself and this is a core process to improve your feeling of competence and worthiness which translates to high self-esteem.

Loyalty is not defined by words but by actions and the faithfulness to pursue the things that make you a better person in life is how you know how loyal you are to yourself.

Loyalty to self is not the prompting to fulfil all your desires but it’s the consistent commitment to putting yourself on the path for growth in every key area of your life.

When you define your life and have outcomes outlined that you’re chasing, you now have a path to become loyal to yourself – it is easy to build high self-esteem when you’re purposefully loyal to yourself.

It means that you’re not just doing anything by chance but actively committing yourself to the things that you’ve designed for your growth.

Loyalty to Self is the Beginning.

The mention of loyalty immediately takes many people’s minds away from themselves to other people. A lot of us know that it is a good thing to be loyal to family, you know you have to be loyal to your friends, organization and all of that, but most people always fail to think about being loyal to themselves.

If you want to build your self-esteem or any other aspect of life, you have to constantly think and ask yourself the question, how loyal am I to myself?

Look at the way you spend your time, how much time do you intentionally dedicate to doing things for yourself, for your growth? This is the beginning.

Loyalty to self is the beginning of practising true loyalty because it is the first place where you become loyal to something that doesn’t give an immediate return.

Loyalty to self means loyalty to discipline and honesty to yourself, it means loyalty to hard work to move forward, loyalty to meditation and prayers. It is the loyalty to self that can build all these virtues that are all needed if you want to be loyal to someone else.

If you can be loyal to yourself by practising the things that build your confidence and growth, your self-esteem will grow and you’ll become a person of principle that can become truly loyal to other people and their cause.

If you can easily abandon your cause for something else, you will never be able to give your true allegiance to anyone else and people will not trust you to give it because they’ve seen how you treat yourself.

Building high self-esteem demands consistency in practising important growth virtue and the only way you can stay consistent in practising these virtues is by being loyal to yourself.

You Cannot Build Without Loyalty.

The only way to build yourself is to devote yourself to the things that mean something to you and this is the same way to build the factors that improve the level of your self-esteem.

Over the past five weeks, we’ve seen six different factors that you must practice to build high self-esteem – if you’re not loyal to yourself and the process of your growth, you’ll only read and pass but when you’re loyal to yourself, you’ll have total devotion, dedication and faithfulness to practising these factors.

Without loyalty to your cause, it becomes easy to sway your attention from what matters to what others want you to do. It is important to be dedicated to the things that give you a good sense of competence and worthiness if you want to build high self-esteem.

There must always be an anchor that keeps you stable and rooted in the important things in your life, this is the job of loyalty in your life.

Having an Anchor.

There is an image of yourself in your mind that serves as the stabilizer for you in everything you do, this is the concept of self-image and the reason why it’s important to build a great self-image – your self-image is the level of your standing within your mind and this image is the anchor and its strength or weakness depends on what you’re loyal to.

“You have to be loyal to the things that build your anchor image, this is how to prove that you’re loyal to yourself.”

You must be loyal to yourself to build your anchor image, the outcomes you constantly pursue in life must strengthen the anchor image if you want to build high self-esteem.

If I’m loyal to the image of being the best public speaker and writer, I must continue to do the things that reinforce my competence and worthiness to be exactly like the image in my mind and it is when I’m loyal to this process that my self-esteem can improve, if I choose to be disloyal, to do the opposite of the things that reinforce this image, I’ll begin to look and feel like a fraud to myself and thereby hurt my self-esteem.

“What you’re loyal to will determine the actions you take and the actions you take will determine the level of your self-esteem.”

As loyalty is the basis that strengthens the anchor for yourself, loyalty to self is also the basis on which loyalty to other people is anchored and strengthened.

A person that is not loyal to his principles would not be loyal to another’s principles – this is a common theme with people suffering low self-esteem, their inability to stay true to themselves also means they cannot stay true to anything.

Finally, this week, I want you to hold on to this important lesson that loyalty to self is the first form of loyalty everyone that wants to grow must practice. To be loyal to the values and virtues that can build you up and to consistently stay active in practising them is a foundational way to build competence and worthiness which is the two pillar that holds your self-esteem.

To build high self-esteem, you must be loyal to yourself.

It’s always an honour to write to you every week and I pray you to have an amazing and productive week.

Talk to you soon again.